In the previous post, we talked about the importance of time. But wait a minute, since time is that valuable, then why are we trying to kill it?
We all heard of the expression “we’re killing time”, whether it’s from friends who’re sitting in a café the whole day, or from some family members who seem to be so bored and hungry during a Ramadan day that they spend the whole day sleeping or watching tv trying to kill time, or a lot of us during this Covid19 lockdown, etc.
But if time is so valuable, then why are we trying to kill it? Have we ever heard of an expression of “killing money” or “throwing money away”. Maybe there are some people who do that, but one thing is sure they are very rare, while almost all of us have been in a situation where they felt they needed to kill time or waste time if you prefer. Usually that happens when we feel so bored but we’re still not willing to invest our time in something useful. We don’t feel like it, we don’t want to be productive and we’re looking for something fun, but sometimes that fun thing we want is not available and so we end up killing time by something useless and not even fun.
Our minds are constantly looking for rewards, big or small, and the faster the better. And so, if you see yourself not feeling like doing anything, then most likely it’s just your mind telling you that the reward of “relaxation” or “emptiness” is all it’s asking for. However, boredom usually means that your mind is tired of that and looking for a more exciting reward. And so my advice is to promise it a small reward, that you have to give to yourself as soon as you finish one small task. It has to be small, because long term stuff don’t usually work when you’re in that state of mind. We will talk more about examples of those rewards in one of the next posts about procrastination. Let’s now look at another very common problem we usually complain about.
I’m too busy, I don’t have time!
Oh we’ve all heard that, and most of us tell it to ourselves way more often than we should, right? But is it true though? I mean everybody has 24 hours in a day, yet there are people who do so much with their days, create things, manage companies, make a lot of money, and still manage to have dinner with their family and have a good night sleep. And then there is the majority of us who are always complaining about their 9 to 5 jobs, it’s taking them too long and they’re always too busy to see their parents, to have fun with their friends, to do some volunteer work or to just have a good night sleep. So, is it really about that 24 hours in a day not being enough? Because like I said it’s the one thing we all have at exactly the same amount as long as we are alive.
I think it’s not about having enough time, it’s about whether that task you want or have to do is worthy of your time or not. Because yes, time is limited and the tasks may sometimes exceed the time we have to do them in. And so, managing time is really about prioritizing those tasks, and figuring out what to do about the ones that are not higher up on your list.
In the next post, we’ll talk more about how to do exactly that, so you can spend your time on the things that really matter to you and still find out a way to get the other things done in so little to no time at all.
To be continued