In previous posts ( part 1 and part 2), we talked about the perception of success and what we think we know about success. We also asked some important but pretty uncomfortable questions so that we can rethink about this concept. I also shared with you guys some of my favorite definitions of success and we talked about the importance of defining “a destination” as clearly as possible. Today, I’ll talk about the concept of worthiness and and I will try to help you come up with YOUR definition of success. So, if that sounds good to you, keep on reading 😀
The concept of “worthiness”
Now, let’s say you have 5 destinations on different aspects of your life, either professionally or physically, or emotionally or spiritually or a combination of all those and maybe some other aspect! If you get 80% close to achieving D1, 70% to D2, 20% to D3, 55% to D4 and 75% to D5, can I predict the percentage of your overall success? Hmmm, I can try but I’ll have to make some assumptions that are most likely not true.
Let’s say I say that you are 60% close to your destinations, I would have assumed that all the destinations are equally important to you and make you happy exactly the same way, is that true? I have no idea! Maybe you don’t even know yourself, and that’s totally fine as long as you commit yourself to try to figure it out.
Ok, so let’s assume they are equally important to you, can I say that 60% is considered successful or not? How would I know? Only you can determine what is satisfactory at this moment and what is not, what is worthy in your opinion and what is not. 20% closer can be a huge success to some types of destinations in a particular moment of your journey, while 80% can be considered a step back for you. It all depends on the destination, its nature, its deadline and its importance to you and your happiness (or in other words its worthiness).
Come up with your own definition of success
So, what I’m trying to say here is that success is much more than the amount of money in your bank account, or the assets you own, or the relationships you have. It is all those things if you consider them worthy, and way more. Hence, it is very important to define it for yourself! Because guess what, nobody will define it for you. Wait, correction: Nobody CAN define it for you!
Some people’s success is all about the amount of time they spend with their families, to others it’s about power and social status, to others it’s about their closeness to their creator and the purity of their heart, while it can be about paychecks for some people.
However, for most people, it’s about the balance between all these aspects of our lives. We want a connection to a higher power (Allah). We want to have great relationships with our families and friends. We want to find love and get married to our significant other. We want to have the job of our dreams. We want to have the means to be able to enjoy our lives. We want to have amazingly beautiful and healthy bodies. Some of us also want to help others and be able to serve in our own way.
It doesn’t matter what your definition for success is, just make it as specific and clear as possible for now! Break it down to a few destinations in different aspects of your life and try to at least classify them by degree of importance to your happiness or worthiness! That’s a simple yet very difficult exercise, so don’t give up if you can’t do it in one session. It can take time, but it’ll be so worth it, trust me!
Otherwise, we would just be wandering around here and not being able to know where we should go or whether we’re successful or not. And you know what is worse? The worse thing that can happen is to see that people are saying that you’re successful when you feel that you’re absolutely not! Remember, happiness comes from within and it reflects on the outside world! It’ll be great to feel proud to know that people especially your loved ones think that you’re successful, it’s one of the best feelings out there!
What is my definition of success?
Well, I can write an entire book to try to answer this question, but I’ll say a few words here. I personnaly consider success as a balance between all the aspects of my life, and so I am setting up professional, educational, spiritual and personal goals that I update constantly (I will share some of them with you guys in future posts). But to me, the spiritual aspect is very important, it’s my number one priority in my list of destinations. It is the only aspect that can make me feel fullness inside, that can give meaning to my life especially when things are extremely hard. It makes me full of hope and makes it easier for me to get up on my feet when (God forbid) I experience any form of hardship.
So once again (last time today, I promise), how can you define success? Make sure to share your thoughts with me in the comment section, I can’t wait to read them and learn more about what is your definition of success.
Until then, stay blessed!